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The Love Lounge Express: Happy Valentine's Day; Issue #012
February 03, 2015
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A MESSAGE FROM THE EDITOR:
Hey there chaps and chicas!! Valentine's Day is quickly approaching. As I always state, doing nice things for your honey should be an "all year round" affair. Treat your boo wonderfully by doing amazing things for them often. Valentine's Day is just the icing on your cake of love and is the time to add that extra flair to a gift or dinner date.
We have a special Valentine's freebie of the month if you need help coming up with special and unique date ideas, gifts and etc.
8 Things NOT to do on a First Date!
On your first date (and future dates) you want to make a good impression. However, you want to be as honest and as forthcoming as possible and not send your representative to do your dirty work. Below are some things NOT to do on a first and future dates.
Don't Be Late - No one wants to sit around waiting for you to finally arrive. It is understandable if things happen (traffic, babysitter, etc.) DO arrive at least 15 minutes early and be considerate of other's time.
Don't Forget Your Wallet - DO Make sure you have enough cash/credit on hand to pay for the entire meal. That goes for men and women. Sometimes men pay for the first meal. However, you want to make sure you are covered if things go south and you are somehow stuck with the bill. It's 2015...you just never know.
Don't Discuss Previous Relationships - Sometimes less is more when it comes to this and I understand that you want to get to know your future boo. However, talking about things your ex did or didn't do in the past is not a good look in your present situation. Remember, your ex and the person you are out with are two different people. Leave that baggage at the door. DO ask questions though. After discussing ex situations in minor detail, go onto the next topic. There are other things to talk about besides how your ex flattened your tires.
Click Here for Questions To Ask While on a Date
Don't Brag – Few things are more offensive than someone who is so full of themselves. I totally get that some of us are proud of our accomplishments. However, do you really want to divulge that information with an outcome being that a person only likes you because of the things you have or the people you know? DO talk about things that interest you or things that you plan to do in the future or things you have done without being boastful.
Don't Chew Tobacco or Reek of Cigarette Smoke - DO Wait until after the date to have your nicotine fix as some folks who do not smoke are turned off by a person smelling of ciggys or anything else for that matter.
Don't Get Drunk - You do not want to get too intoxicated or wasted. That in itself can be a turn off for your potential mate especially if you cannot hold your alcohol too well. Don't
put yourself in a position where you could do things that you'll later regret. DO pace yourself and drink responsibly.
Don't Talk About Sex or Make Physical Advances - Most people who are out on a first date do not have sex on the brain nor do they want to feel sexually harassed on a first date either. DO flirt with each other but leave it as just that. A little harmless flirtation is healthy for your growing relationship.
Don't Touch Your Cellphone - No texting, no gaming, no social media, NOTHING! It is RUDE! DO keep the distractions to a minimum and give your date your 100% attention.
Just remember, the point of being on a date is to get to know your potential mate. Keep the vibe positive and light, be cordial, be considerate, and be nice. Even if you find out half way through the date that this person may not be the right
one for you, enjoy yourself in the moment and end the night on a good note.
Do You Have Tall Poppy Syndrome?
In Australia there is a phrase called "the tall poppy syndrome." It describes a condition where one flower raises its head far above the rest of the flowers. Because they think it looks unnatural, they cut the poppy down to the size of the other poppies.
Do you think your poppy (your loved one) is taller than the rest? Do you have that same habit with your honey when someone compliments them on something they've done or accomplished and you say something negative or discount their accomplishments and how they achieved them? Or have you inserted yourself in their glory somehow by stating the reasons why they got to be or do what they have done? Do you like to insult, dis or talk trash about your spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend? Are you one of those people who will toss those insults in public just to make yourself look good?
Sometimes, we find it hard to
accept that some people are going to naturally rise above others. That person could be a spouse who makes more money, has a better physique, more friends, a better job, or is better educated. Some folks may even go as far as cutting down the poppies around them if they are not feeling good about themselves and their situations in life.
In so many ways, that is considered verbal abuse. If you feel that your partner is outshining you, you need to take a look in the mirror! You are in a partnership for a reason and the things you both do and accomplish is for the betterment of your growing relationship or marriage. You need to work on your self esteem, self confidence and shed some positive light on your life so that you will not feel some kind of way when your honey excels at something that you may not be able to excel at or achieve.
Do not take your frustrations out on your loved ones. Communication is key to life's little treasures.
By communicating how you feel about things to your honey and working them out together, it helps build your self confidence, self love and self awareness. Leave the insults and embarrassment out of the equation and out of the public eye.
"Life is about choices, enjoy life and choose your destiny!"
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